1Malaysia: Friends of various races and cultures living in harmony SUNDAY WITH T.SELVA
Sunday April 26, 2009
Life is incomplete without friends.
MANY people walk in and out of our lives but the ones who remain closest to us are our true friends.
And friends have often proven to be more valuable than family and partners because they care and share in our joy and pain. Those who leave footprints in our heart are our best friends.
Making friends and maintaining friendship is part of our life’s support system because without them, our lives would be empty, dull and dreadful.
MANY people walk in and out of our lives but the ones who remain closest to us are our true friends.
And friends have often proven to be more valuable than family and partners because they care and share in our joy and pain. Those who leave footprints in our heart are our best friends.
Making friends and maintaining friendship is part of our life’s support system because without them, our lives would be empty, dull and dreadful.
In short, our whole life depends on our ability to get along with others and developing friendships because our time spent outside our home is with friends.
Our friends are vital because they are one of the most reliable sources of happiness, joy, support and intellectual development.
While some friends are for keeps, some drift apart from us. In the course of friendship, sometimes we may get hurt or be betrayed and find it difficult to trust someone any more.
But we should understand that bumps in a relationship are a means for us to know and understand the friend better; building trust requires quality time and is a life long process.
I have a childhood friend with whom I shared the same plate, cup and bed in our younger days but we have grown apart owing to our work and a change in his lifestyle and beliefs.
Although we have not seen each other for over five years now, my lawyer friend still remains special to me because of the values, sorrow and fun we shared.
Good friends are those you can count on when you are in difficulty even though you have not met for some time. It is not necessary for your best friend and you to meet daily, weekly or monthly because a strong friendship is beyond distance and regular meetings. Friendships involves an internal connection.
Last week, I received an SMS from a friend for World Friendship Week which read:
They love you but they are not your lover.
They care for you but they are not from your family.
They are ready to share your pain but they are not your relation.
They are friends.
True friend scolds like a Dad, cares like a Mum, teases like a sister, irritates like a brother and finally loves you more than a lover.
The message continued by comparing friendship to our eyes:
They blink together, move together, cry together, see things together and sleep together.
Though they never see each other, friendship should be just like that because life is hell without friends.
Life is incomplete without friends and no one can go through life without friends. Friends do not coming knocking at your door but you must go out and meet people to make friends.
One way is by joining social groups or voluntary organisations having common interests and passion; it can be a fun way to develop friendships.
The secret of happiness and well-being of our body, mind and spirit is having good friends.
> T. Selva appears live on TRAXXfm for the TRAXX 101’s motivational segment on The Art of Happy Living every last Friday of the month with DJ Jezza.
Tips on maintaining friendships
> Be reliable and a good listener.
> Be honest and trustworthy.
> Smile and make eye contact during a conversation.
> Forgive each other as mistakes are bound to happen.
> Do not hold grudges as they can ruin friendships.
> Have no conditions or strings attached in your friendship.
> Invest time and energy in your friendship and make it a commitment.
> Show interest in the well-being of your friend and offer companionship.
> Share challenges and joy and offer a shoulder to lean on when life is difficult.
Our friends are vital because they are one of the most reliable sources of happiness, joy, support and intellectual development.
While some friends are for keeps, some drift apart from us. In the course of friendship, sometimes we may get hurt or be betrayed and find it difficult to trust someone any more.
But we should understand that bumps in a relationship are a means for us to know and understand the friend better; building trust requires quality time and is a life long process.
I have a childhood friend with whom I shared the same plate, cup and bed in our younger days but we have grown apart owing to our work and a change in his lifestyle and beliefs.
Although we have not seen each other for over five years now, my lawyer friend still remains special to me because of the values, sorrow and fun we shared.
Good friends are those you can count on when you are in difficulty even though you have not met for some time. It is not necessary for your best friend and you to meet daily, weekly or monthly because a strong friendship is beyond distance and regular meetings. Friendships involves an internal connection.
Last week, I received an SMS from a friend for World Friendship Week which read:
They love you but they are not your lover.
They care for you but they are not from your family.
They are ready to share your pain but they are not your relation.
They are friends.
True friend scolds like a Dad, cares like a Mum, teases like a sister, irritates like a brother and finally loves you more than a lover.
The message continued by comparing friendship to our eyes:
They blink together, move together, cry together, see things together and sleep together.
Though they never see each other, friendship should be just like that because life is hell without friends.
Life is incomplete without friends and no one can go through life without friends. Friends do not coming knocking at your door but you must go out and meet people to make friends.
One way is by joining social groups or voluntary organisations having common interests and passion; it can be a fun way to develop friendships.
The secret of happiness and well-being of our body, mind and spirit is having good friends.
> T. Selva appears live on TRAXXfm for the TRAXX 101’s motivational segment on The Art of Happy Living every last Friday of the month with DJ Jezza.
Tips on maintaining friendships
> Be reliable and a good listener.
> Be honest and trustworthy.
> Smile and make eye contact during a conversation.
> Forgive each other as mistakes are bound to happen.
> Do not hold grudges as they can ruin friendships.
> Have no conditions or strings attached in your friendship.
> Invest time and energy in your friendship and make it a commitment.
> Show interest in the well-being of your friend and offer companionship.
> Share challenges and joy and offer a shoulder to lean on when life is difficult.
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